Asian penis, the new object of your affection.

I'm a forum troll, I admit... usually when I'm at work or lacking something to do I look around the local chat forums to see what's up with people. In a recent exploration into the dating forums, I've come across what seems to be a significant enough presence to be considered a phenomenon: Asian guy/white girl.

I myself have developed an automatic reaction to the Asian girl/white guy couple. If the guy seems to have nothing to offer to the girl, I'm filled with skepticism. However if the white guy is hot (smart, goodlooking, whatever) than well... hey a hot guy is a hot guy, right? In honesty, on the few occasions I've had with white women who seemed to be interested or at least open to dating an Asian guy, I was quite shocked.

Looking back on my life, I see now that I might have had a shot with several non-asian girls (if I liked the vag), but the first time it really hit me was quite late into my college years. I was working a restaurant in Oakland and my co-worker, a really cute, nice, caucasian girl found out I was gay... she then said something along the lines of "Too bad, when I first met you, I thought you were cute". I responded "really?"... she confirmed... I turned around and thought to myself, "freak".

One of my friends in Shanghai, an ABC, has recently been the victim of an ABC fetishizer. Blogger is clear to remind me that "fetishizer" is indeed, not a word. Anyway, this girl has a thing for specifically ABCs. Several girls on the sites are hunting down local boys (steering clear away from overseas chinese) for dating and maybe a relationship. They cite similar features that I myself would... and I am generalizing... smooth skin, cute faces, nice (I'm a total bitch now, btw), slender and toned.

On one hand I want to say, "go Asian men!" and on the other I just want to step back and wonder if this is the fetish of the 21st century. With the rise of China, is it possible that Chinese men (and people that look like them) will become the new "it" thing? In 30 years, will my kids see half-Asian/half-white kids and think, not another product of white girls fetishizing Asian guys?

And then I twist it around to another angle: the gender angle. And I realize that even the creepiest white girl would never reach the level of creepy I get from a wrinkly old potato sack of a white man trying to get with little 24 year old me. Does the glass ceiling extend from women's offices and limit their potential fetishizing creepiness? After all, isn't it always about power and how you use it?

Maybe it's not a fetish at all. Maybe they're just trying something different. Maybe they're getting away from the stereotype of the overly masculine American male and running into the arms of the gentler, softer skinned stereotype. Maybe this means I have more friends to hunt down helpless little Asian boys with... I have no answers for you. Only questions.